JINDAGI
MEIN DO TARAH KE RISHTE INSAAN KO SABSE JYADA EFFECT KARTE HAI........
EK .... JO
DIL SE JODE JAATE HAI,
AUR
DUSRE.... JO DIL SE TODE JAATE HAI.
Ye kahani kuch
aise hi rishto ki hai, ........
I write this as I sit with
utter silence round me. It’s just me and my thoughts having a debate. I write
this as I think of the incidents one after the other leading to many ups and
downs in my life all the memories of the past years flash into my mind. when I
recall everything , I find a girl who is very introvert, someone who thinks a
thousand times before speaking to anyone, someone with not many friends but
just a few of them who were very close, that was me.....
I still remember my friend
saying “kitna likhegi!! “ when I signed his shirt on our farewell from school. There was so
much to say that words could not express and next moment I felt like scolding
him for he didn’t sign my shirt at all!!!
Man to kiya k puchu “what?? Don’t
you have anything to say??” but the kind of person I was meri jyadatar baatein man mein hi reh jati thi.
I can go on and on with this
topic but coming to the current status ham
na sirf contact mein hai but we know
every little thing going on in each others life, we are an essential part of
each others life. Today for me DEVESH is not just a person, he is my brother,
my counsellor, my best friend, and he is more than what I am to myself. Aur aj
I know why there wasn’t a need to write anything on my shirt. And is story mein you’ll
come across this name many times. As I said I can go on and on with this but
coming back to the reality ...now I am a post graduate and also a teacher by
profession and he is a software engineer. Now it has been almost 5 years since
I gave my very first class and everything from school has been left far behind.....
All my friends, wo maasumiyat, wo
saari masti, all those pranks, even my
own nature..... just one thing that is still there is my bhai.....Devesh.
but jitni uthal puthal meri life mein pichle kuch
mahino mein hui hai utni puri life mein
nai hui......
THE DAY IT ALL STARTED
23rd July 2011,
this was the date when it all started, this was the day when I entered a totally
new world of professionalism by joining PYDS. Everything went on very smooth for
the first few weeks although I was a little worried about how would I cope up
with the environment here but then I got some new friends and things became
easy.
I was very happy with the
new place, new friends, lively atmosphere, lovely children and a lot of
work :P.
Everything was so good and the best thing was
our group. But only till things suddenly changed .......
When we met for the first
time, I didn’t interact much. Tab shayad
pata nahi tha that I would be writing down
all this one day. Well.... after a normal and formal “hi” and “hello” we went
to our respective work areas. That was a really hectic day and I was totally
exhausted but had to go to the market also that night I was really tired and
the only thing I wanted was my bed and a sound sleep. As per the normal routine
I had a talk with Devesh (since last few years it is an unsaid rule that we
have to talk to each other every night or at least message telling about the
whole day) and then I went to bed when suddenly my phone rang it was an unknown
number and already very irritated with weird calls I didn’t pick up the call .then
came a message saying “hi how r u?” I didn’t reply and soon after that came
another one “arey reply please”.
“Do I know you?” was the
reply sent by me. It was really annoying to have such calls after such a tiring
day. Ek bar socha Devesh ko call kar ke bataau (isse
pehle bhi aise phone calls ke bare mein maine use hi bataya tha) phir socha it’s too late to call anybody chahe wo apka life support system hi kyu na ho even he needs sleep :D. I just switched off my
cell and went to sleep.
THE NEXT DAY......
By now I had inculcated the
good habit of getting up early because our school started at 7:30 and for that
I had to leave by 7:00 in the morning and just as another normal day I went to
school. Everything was the same but the smile that caught my attention every
now and then all the more I was a little puzzled because of the last night’s
incidents. The kind of person I was even small things bother me very easily but
the day ended and I came home. That evening again the same number flashed on
the screen when my phone rang in the evening ....... this was the limit and I
picked up the phone but before I could say anything a familiar voice said ”hii!!! kaise ho?”......this was something I had not expected although the voice was very
familiar but I could not recognise it so I asked “who is it?” “arey
guess karo” was the reply to my
question but on showing my incapability of guessing he said “arey this is JAY..........”. Uff!! It’s him!!!
I relaxed and at the same time warned him that
he better didn’t repeat this kind of a joke again. He was sorry for that weird
prank that he played. After a small conversation I saw “Devesh calling.....”flashing
on my cell phone and so I hung up and had a chat with motu. That was a better
night than the previous one......
THE UNFORSEEN.......
Now it had been a schedule
that jay called up every evening and we had a talk. Very normal I never found
it awkward moreover it was nice to chat about the whole day at the end of it .
By now we had got into a habit of being into a group, we laughed at each other’s
jokes, played pranks but still there was a far way to go for friendship. We
stayed together in school, it was nice to have a company, only until the
day......
I still remember that evening
sitting in my cosy bed wrapped up in my quilt busy writing up some reports to
complete the student files ( school ke kaam ke baad extra kaam ghar le jana
mujhe bilkul pasand nahi , but have to do it) I was feeling little tired and
drowsy because of lots of work when my phone rang, seeing the name that flashed
on the screen a smile came to my face. It was JAY....... I picked up the call
and came out in the veranda to talk. With a very normal start we went on
talking about how the day was things that bothered us or things that we enjoyed
but I could sense some hesitation in his voice but I did not ask. Suddenly he
said “ma’am ek baat kahu? Aap bura to nai manoge?” I said “haan bolo”........
“bolo ab” I emphasised
breaking the silence making him speak out what he wanted to say. “Ma’am I don’t
know I should say this or not but I think I like you” taking this very lightly
I said “you think you like me!!! I know I like everybody from my group” :P (how
dumb could I be) listening to this shayad wo be samajh gaya that muje uski
baato mein seriousness nahi dikhi to he just said “chalo ma’am kal baat karte
hai” and hung up. But after some time when I was going to sleep he called up
again “haan ji bolo” picking up the phone I said. “ma’am apse baat karni hai”
he said in a very soft tone. And as I
said even small things tend to bother me very easily , so I asked “kya hua ?
itna low kyu sound kar rahe ho?” that was the moment which brought in the
surprise “ma’am I think main apko pasand karne laga hoon” “I know I am not
right when I say this but kya karu? I like the way you talk to everyone, the
smile that you carry, I just think I am in love with you.........”
The words he said kept floating
into my mind for the next few minutes and rest everything became silent I could not hear him speaking anymore and it
was my turn to say something and I really wanted to scream as to “how much do
you know me?” but all I could say was “kal baat karte hai” and hung up. Since
then started the era of sleepless nights........but not awake in love instead
awake thinking about the whole thing critically. The next day was school and
that night I kept thinking what would I do or say to him......how awkward will
it be............and many other such thoughts crept into my mind and there was
no space left for sleep.
The next day I went to
school and luckily he was on leave for the day so, everything went on smooth
this was the first time that I really wished that he didn’t call but wishes
don’t always come true..... he called up on the same time as he did regularly
but this time I had nothing to talk about and wanted him to hang up quickly....
I prayed to god desperately that the topic should not come up but in vain he
again came to it while I said bye but this time I was ready with a clear answer
but just did not want to be in an awkward situation. So I told him that I did
like him as a friend but have many more things with higher importance than love.
Satisfied with my answer I hung up the phone. (kam se kam muje to yahi laga)
I thought he would be normal
after this incident but things grew
worse.....every time he wanted to talk to me he just had to express his
feelings for me I just ignored him but he didn’t drop the topic, every now and
then whenever and wherever he got time he came up with it.
Now I could not stop myself
by telling the whole tale to motu (“motu”
I call Devesh with many such funny and weird names) because I was really
clueless for how to solve the whole situation and he was the only one I thought
could help me out with this. Until then......
“I know I should not be
saying this again and again and you don’t feel the same for me but main kya
karu I like you very much, this does not mean to pressurize you but I can’t
hide my feelings........”
“muje malum hai that I am wrong when I say
this again and again but......”
These were the most haunting
words I had ever heard in my life and these words kept troubling me all through
my days and nights.............
All I could do was to think
about it and that made me all the more crazy and frustrated.......
I can never forget that day
when I decided to finish the whole story.......
But for that I needed a
suitable situation to start with and lucky enough I got it...... us din we were
all chatting around wailing away time and came the topic of “ the someone
special” that.... was my moment and without any second thought I said “sabki
life mein ek special insaan hota hai” and things framed as I wanted them to be
because the immediate question was “ tumhari life mein kaun hai?” “DEVESH” came
a clear answer from me.........bas that was it and then I turned the whole
topic to something else. After some time I had a class to take so I went away......
in the next free hour I deliberately found an empty class and sat there and as
expected he came to the class and started of the conversation by asking how was
my day and how was I feeling and then came the blast “ye Devesh kaun hai?” I
was ready with an answer this time “meri life ka sabse important insaan” J
I said. He didn’t say another word about him..... his expressions resembled to
a person who would has just been robbed and is left penny less.........
Hamesha suna tha ke adha
sach bahut khatarnaak hota hai but aaj dekh bhi liya........
Normally god meri life mein
jyada interfere nahi karte but this time it seemed as if chutti lekar mere liye
hi baithe the...... after that conversation luckily whenever he called I was on
phone with motu and very obvious didn’t pick his call. This made him all the
more restless.
After this his nagging
reduced but still every now and then he would give me a hint that he still
liked me. Ek ya do baar he also said “ye devesh hai kaun ?”.
And one day I showed him all
thanks to face book which keeps us connected. Seeing the pics he made an
unsuccessful attempt to divert my mind saying “arey ye to apse bada lagta hai”
“apke type ka nai hai”
“ha!ha!ha!” I laughed in my
heart “how could somebody be so filmy?” I asked myself.
My continuously informing
him about devesh and his questioning went on for almost two months and also he
expressed his feelings for me every now and then whenever he could. Then I had
to go for a trip to TEHRI – garhwal for 3 days
“look!!!!! we are friends
and I really don’t want ke situations itni kharab ho jay ke ham ek dusre ko
bardaasht karna mushkil ho isliye phir se bata rahi hoon I really don’t love
you and as it is I have prior commitments. “ this was what I told him when I
went for the trip............ . this time he stood there quite without any
argument.
Tehri was a lot of fun and
frolic this was my first trip without my parents all by myself and moreover I
was the one who was taking care of
others.
Three days just flew by and we were back to school.
Phir wahi roj kaa kaam.
WEEKS OF SILENCE.....
To my amazement everything
was so very normal, jay did not come up with anything weird or anything that
would stress me instead he was very friendly, the same as he used to be during
my initial time in this place, the same old joking around, laughing and giggling
on each other’s jokes, enjoying and fighting at times for food sab kuch achha
tha , sab pehle jaisa tha.but still there was something that was in my mind
kuch to tha jo muje pareshan kar raha tha. He was behaving as if nothing
happened where else I could not forget the phone call that night. This did
affect my behaviour with him and it came into notice of my friends aur shayad
usne bhi ye note kiya and one day he came to me when I was in the library
(library is the place jahan main class ke baad jyadatar baithti hoon, it being
quiet and lonely corner of the school, it is very easy to focus on work here)
“kya kar rahe ho?” he asked. I didn’t reply pretending I was busy in work and
didn’t listen to him .The question got repeated but this time from a closer
point. He sat on the empty chair lying next to me “ kya hua? koi problem hai?” there
was a sense of concern in his voice. I nodded my head giving a negative response.
“to aise chup chap kyu baithe ho?” came another question. “kuch nai hua main
bas kam kar rahi hoon” I replied showing my frustration on him sitting with me.
Acha aj kal bahut kaam ho raha hai...... chalo ek baat bataao....... you said
you have some commitments....... “haan
to” I interrupted. “to what commitments ?” came an obvious question. “hai kuch
personal” I again gave a to the point answer. “ achcha is it related to the
same person we had a talk about?” I felt as if I was playing “SACH KA SAMNA”
and he was RAJEEV KHANDELWAL asking me all sorts of difficult questions. “yes”
I replied cutting it short.( thank god waha koi lieometer nahi tha) mere us
adhe sach ne itna gehra asar choda tha ye mujhe us din maalum pada.
Aur mere us jawab ke baad to
uski inquisitiveness aur badh gayi but he didn’t show it bas kaha “good all the best”. “thanks” I replied with a
wicked smile. And to make him more restless I said “sun don’t tell it to any
one please”
He lost
all the liveliness of his face and his expressions gave me a sweet feeling of
victory. I wore a wicked smile on my face.
“thanks motu” I thanked
Devesh in my heart because all this was his idea!!!! (since this had all
started I had been getting his ideas and implementing them blindly this is why
I call him my best support)
That night when we had a
talk I was chirping as a bird and jab take k ek detail bata nahi di muje chain
nahi pada J
Wow!!! That night I slept as
a baby. Wearing a smile on my face.
The next day again went in
silence neither he asked anything nor did I. He just made an attempt to get
into the details of my relationship status but all in vain.
This phase continued for a
week or so but that day it was one of our teachers farewell and meri badnassibi
I had to go for shopping for gifts and party stuff and mere sath jane ko
JAI!!!!! I had never prayed to god that much even on the night I was praying
for him not to call. But bhagwan meri kahan sunte hai L
I had to go that was his moment and I
had no choice than to answer his questions. He wanted to gather all information
about my relationship status aur main us se bi do kadam age ..... atishiyokti
alankar ka istemal maine apni life mein kabi itna nai kiya jitna us do ghante
mein kiya( atishiyokti alankar = exaggeration)
That day I realized my power
of exaggerating things J.
well..... the only thing I loved was the bike ride...... it was really
awesome to get a ride in that cool breeze.
Days passed by and I assured
him that I had someone in my life and there was no room for someone else (at
least I felt so).
THE UNPREDICTABLE........
Time went
by and so went his efforts. Few weeks passed by and we came to known each
other. I could now say we were friends, we enjoyed each other's company and we
were concerned about each other. We missed each other if didn't meet. It was
good to have company of such kind. Jay and I got to know each other from
different aspects. I came to know about his nature. Kuch cheezein
thi thi jo muje bhi pasand ayi jaise sach k liye ladna. He would go out off his way to help his friends or
people he knew. This was the quality we had in common. Gradually we got to know
each other better. jab bhi I had any issue regarding the school we had a talk.
Our phonic conversation had never stopped but now it was a pleasure to
talk............
It was
December end and by now we had come to know each other quiet a lot. U came to know that I had to go
another trip but this time it was a long one.15 days away from home was
something big for me but I was happy because I had heard a lot about such trips
from the other members. The day we all were starting our journey almost
everyone wished luck and mujhe to jyadatar ne ek hi baat kahi "kuch tod k mat ana". Jay said "kehne ki zaroorat nahi hai but sambhal k jana aur apna khyala
rakhna". It was
good to hear a word of concern from him.
We
departed as out train was scheduled from haridwar. We reached there before time
and moreover the train was late :( sitting on the platform along with my
colleagues a chill ran through my nerves. I suddenly realized that I was going
to be out for so many days. . as the time passed feeling became stronger and to
add to it one of my friends told that her brother was coming all the way from
Bangalore to see her............ That was it!!! I wanted to see motu!!! this
was weird. totally crazy feeling......... I had never reacted to any situation
in such a stupid manner as I did last night...........( bina kuch
soche samjhe maine bhai ko call kar diya and told him ki I want him to come to see
me............) of course he could not come to meet me that too on such a short
notice ............ but aaj sochti hoon to hasi ati hai on my behaviour for that time
span I almost tortured Devesh with my phone calls and psychic behaviour. I knew
he was bound with his work or else he would have come but knowing all this I still
pressurised him to meet me. Every time he would call main sirf ek
chiz kehti “ aja na” aur har baar expect karti that he would say “chal main ata
hoon”. I am till date not able to
justify my behaviour. It was totally unlike me..... I cried..... I shouted.....
and did all sorts of foolish things.
And it
was the limit when I screamed on him on top of my voice ( I still feel guilty
and regret doing that) ab sochti hoon to yaad bhi nai ata ke maine kya kya
kaha tha use and he
didn’t react at all....... He was just there listening to me patiently quietly
without getting angry at all. Aj jab sab yaad karti hoon to lagta hai if wo
mere paas ni hota to mera kya hota.....but thanks to Mr. Graham Bell who gave
us such a wonderful idea of conversing through telephone and to Mr. martin
Cooper to taking it to cell phones that I could survive those 15 days.
This trip
was disaster.............. Thank God it ended and I was back to school but
still not to my normal life...........I witnessed so many changes in the people
during the trip that it was hard to believe and even harder to believe that as
soon as we entered school everybody became the same as they were before the
trip..........
School
was normal wahi lots of work, running up and down for things,
managing people and events. All this time I had thought that Jay did not feel
for me genuinely because jab maine usse ek false story
sunai he just
agreed to it and stepped back but then I was proved wrong one day.........
That day
as I sat all alone by myself. I was emotionally upset and moreover frustrated
or people of this place. Again man kiya ki motu ko call karu aur
Hamesha ki tarah apni saari problems and tensions uske upar daal k relax ho jau
;P but main alredy usko bahut pareshan kar chuki thi during the trip to phir
dimag ne kaha c'mon
how can u be so selfish har baar aisa nahi ho sakta na............... isi
kashmakash mein mai phone uthati number dekhti phir rakh deti (stupid me) and this went on for
10 minutes at least ( I haven't told motu about this till now and the day I
tell him............ bhagwaan mujhe bachaaye...:P:P) and then I heard a voice "arey phone phuk jaayega aise ghuroge to" I turned to the voice and dekha
ki Jay was there and standing behind me. His hand on my shoulder he sat next to
me. Us din without saying even a word he said a lot. Just by his presence I
felt good shayad because I wanted someone that time that is why his sheer
presence was enough that day.......... I was so distressed that I did not want
to speak or should say could not speak at all. Thodi der
baad he asked "kuch kehna hai?" to which I shook my head giving a negative
response.......... ajeeb tha ye when nobody realized the sadness inside
me........... he could notice it???
Khair the day ended in stress as it had started. While going back home
he came to me and just said "tension mat liya karo Aap haste hue hi ache lagta
ho..........."
hahahaha kitna filmy hai ye banda............. I said to myself......:)
That night he called up at his regular time but I didn’t talk as I was
very stressed our I had slept early so I didn't even talk to motu ( us se
shayad baat kar bhi leti but we share such a bond ke if I would have talked use
samajh aa jata ki there is some problem and it is next to impossible to keep
secrets from him).
Next day was school again I went half heartedly. I was in library during
my free session and when jay cam I was lost in my thoughts so didn't notice him
coming. I noticed when a hand came to me offering a gulabjamun :) (meri
favourite mithai) I looked back and he said " mood kharab hai na ! Ye khao
thik ho jayega" (friends le saath bahut baar bahut kuch khaya hai but this
gesture made me feel special).
That day we spent together( I mean only we too sitting for lunch, during
free sessions) the group was not involved. To my amazement I found it good to
spend time with him All this time he tried to cheer me up with his faltu jokes
and filmy style :).
Us din I realised I do like his company........... shayad now he knows
me in a better way because now at times I don't have to say anything and he
understands it............... He is there when I need the support and stays
away when I want him to do so ...............
Next day was normal and so was my mood I had time so I went to the play
field and played badminton......... it was very refreshing. During lunch time
Jay did not show up and went to call him ( it is the rule of the group that we don’t
eat until everyone is present) he was there in the field as if he knew I would
come to call him. "khana nai khana" I asked to which he did not
answer.............. Strange!!! "ek din pehle mujhe samjha rha tha use kya
hua" I thought to myself khair I went down to him and asked for lunch he
looked sad "kya hua" I asked. "pata nahi....." h didn't
speak for a while, Sitting there I repeated my question but this time
compelling him to answer " I am sorry for what I am going to say but you know
what I feel for you............... I tried hard to be a friend
but............"
"Dekho I understand ............ but ismein khaane ki to koi galti nahi
hai na usey kyu thanda kar rhe ho ?" I answered turning the whole thing
into a joke, He laughed saying "kya hoga apka? Hamesha masti k mood mein
rhte ho". I smiled and got him for lunch.
The day ended and I came home. I was already very confused with my
emotions and after him saying all that I got all more confused.
The person I like should be caring, understanding, jovial, friendly and
on top of everything honest. This was the description of my perfect someone and
that day I found Jay fitting in all the aspects!!! He had the capability of
making me laugh when I was sad. He stood by my side when I stood against
anything wrong.
I loved his company and wanted to be with him........... I missed him
when he was not around............... every morning I looked forward to be with
him....... looked for excuses to talk to him...... now my place of waiting
changed from library to play field..............
Was I falling for him????? Ye kya weird feeling hai ????? Am I getting
the answer for his questions???????
I was still in a phase of confusion............. fighting with my
feelings and emotions( dill aur dimag k is dwand k beech mein ek kashmakash
mein ghiri thi) At times I found him to be what I wanted someone special to be
but then I also found a little difference of opinion between him and myself....
Ek baar socha sab bakwaas hai, it is just because of the situation but
then............. uske liye to I was committed!!! And if he was not serious why
would he hang on for so long???? I was so very confused..................
This was such a weird state of mind moreover I did not talk to anybody
about all this not even Devesh (shayad uske paas answer hota)
It has been him governing my thoughts since it had all started but this
time it was difficult,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Thinking about him gave a smile to my lips instead of a frown on my
forehead........
I had always loved listening to slow romantic songs but now when I heard
them his name came to my mind and his image in my thoughts.................
Songs like "pehla pehla pyar hai" sounded as if it was just
written for me..............GOD!! mai bhi filmy ho rhi thi............ coming
to school was more exciting now........ I thought of him and talked him the
whole day............. if he did not talk to me I felt hurt...............
Kabhi socha nahi tha that koi meri life ko itna effect kar sakta hai!!
I was never this way!!! Nobody in this world could have such an effect
on me............. my way of dressing changed..............I thought about the
clothes to be worn next day.......
I wanted to look good and even expected compliments.........
Ye akhir tha kya???
He did not express his feelings again nor did he ask mine.............
but what about me??